Live Virtual Group Session: 6PM EDT August 4th 2025

Thank you to everyone who joined us for this session!

For this session we read a poem What Sucks About the Afterlife” by Andrea Gibson, posted below.

Our prompt was: Write about the mistake factory.

Participants are warmly encouraged to share what you wrote below (“Leave a Reply”), to keep the conversation going here, bearing in mind that the blog of course is a public space where confidentiality is not assured.

Also, we would love to learn more about your experience of these sessions, so if you’re able, please take the time to fill out a follow-up survey of one to two quick questions!

**Please note that following our session on Monday, August 4th, we will be taking a summer break. Stay tuned for updates on our return in September! **

What Sucks About the Afterlife” by Andrea Gibson

On Earth, everyone loved butterflies,
but I trusted the caterpillars more.
I trusted the ones who knew 

they were not done growing.
On Earth, I was a work in progress,
was comforted in knowing 

that I had a million mistakes still in me
to learn from. I changed my mind
more often than I changed my socks, 

and whenever I was criticized
for mismatched thoughts, I’d say,
who wants to be today 

who they were yesterday?
Becoming was how I prayed.
But here—I am past the finish line: 

I have a heart of gold,
and I never have to dig for it.
I couldn’t do anything wrong if I tried,
and trust me, I try, but 

I get hot-headed, and my rage
toasts the marshmallow on an angel’s
celestial s’mores. I lose my temper and find it
in the halo lost-and found box. 

Lies won’t let me tell them.
they handed me a sticker
that said My Name Is and I wrote
Everyone by accident. I can’t remember 

what selfishness is. Yesterday I said
something angry about an ex, and a quarter
of my tastebuds jumped off my tongue.
I’ve known nothing 

of bitterness since.
Right before I died, I thought,
In the afterlife, I’ll apply for a job
at a mistake factory. They’ll be awed 

by my resume. If anything, I’m overqualified.
But there’s no place where they make
mistakes here. Everyone is flawless.
Everyone’s blunders are photoshopped 

right off their lives before
they even happen. Is this heaven
or hell? I can’t tell. I looked
that famous carpenter up 

in the phone book, but his number
wasn’t listed, and I need to ask him
where to find the wood to build
some missteps. I’m not about to spend 

eternity burning in the lie that holy
and perfect are the same thing.
Do you understand? 

A promised land
is not a promised land
if I can’t keep learning

Credit:Andrea Gibson

21 thoughts on “Live Virtual Group Session: 6PM EDT August 4th 2025

  1. cleverdelicatelycc651fc375's avatar cleverdelicatelycc651fc375

    MISTAKES

    It feels ugly and blurred though I’ve had some weeks now – these are the weeks when the mistakes began to count again. Or, they were differently weighted Before. I suppose then, in the Before, you could say mistakes were a matter of life and death; now, who cares? Yet their impact has grown. Huge, they take up my entire windscreen. I can’t see beyond them any more. My perspective has changed. I am drifting, the horizon indiscernible.

    Liked by 4 people

    • antoinette56's avatar antoinette56

      Dear “cleverdelicately,” I appreciate the description of how mistakes change – are not static, but fluid in their effect and in their mattering. Thanks for sharing! Antoinette

      Like

  2. Rita B's avatar Rita B

    About the mistake factory –

    Rita Basuray

    If we don’t make mistakes, we don’t know what mistakes are, and we glide by in a sterile environment of perfection.  That is boring because in perfection, there’s no discussion, discourse, other ideas, creativity or other opinions.  One doesn’t think anymore and thus, dies a passive death.

    Who wants that?

    So, make as many mistakes as you can, learn, grow and prosper, as I am, in my own mistake factory, now 3 stories high, each more dense than the one below.

    Liked by 3 people

    • michele348's avatar michele348

      Rita… I was trying to remember when I first heard that I had made a mistake…it was probably when I was in grade school, most likely in arithmetic class… which is funny since I eventually became a secondary math teacher. I guess the joke was on that teacher.:-) In any event, I went on to make countless other mistakes, and I agree, if we don’t err, how can we learn and improve? That’s what this life here on earth is all about: making mistakes, learning from them, and climbing the next rung on the ladder.

      Like

    • antoinette56's avatar antoinette56

      Dear Rita, perfection being “boring” and “sterile” is such a great reminder. I also love that yours is (only!) 3 stories high! – thanks for sharing, Antoinette

      Like

  3. Trevor Hebert's avatar Trevor Hebert

    am I broken or exactly what I need to be?

    Both a blessing and a curse, you dispersed the energy by any means necessary

    All the anger, the rage, the temptations that help turn the page on the atrocities of life

    To release and dispel the negativity inside of you

    To sit in peace and tranquility doesnt mean youre perfectIt doesnt mean anything other than you accept what you’ve been given, other than its what you need at that moment

    The healing journey has many twists and turns and feelings you need to purge to move on from the menial day to day stagnancy

    Im here to tell you: these mistakes, these missteps, the grandiose dichotomy of emotional growth…

    Youre allowed to feel how you want to feel but it doesnt make your experience any less important, any less relevant. Any less REAL.

    Everyone is different while were all still the same. The silent battles, the extravagantly loud thrills. The pain. The stress. It all kills in the final moments of being terminally ill.

    We are perfectly imperfect despite the fallacies and fantasies we tell ourselves until our dying breath I am what I am, I was what I was and I will be what I will be…

    and Im okay with that.

    Liked by 2 people

    • michele348's avatar michele348

      Trevor, we are all imperfect, stomping around on Mother Earth, stepping in piles of sh*t, and learning to keep our eyes wide open until we step into it again. But that’s how our minds are wired, I guess. It is what it is, and I guess the sooner we accept it, the less a stressed life we will have. The “carpenter” upstairs has seen and heard it all, so I guess we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves.

      Like

    • antoinette56's avatar antoinette56

      Dear Trevor – it feels like it’s in the shadow of the text we read (and heard) that “you” is one of the inhabitants of your piece. I want to know more about the “grandiose dichotomy of emotional growth”! Thanks, Antoinette

      Like

  4. al3793's avatar al3793

    The Mistake Factory

    What would my life be were it not

    for the mistakes that are me.

    Sounds very odd.

    Yet having my mistakes photoshopped away

    Would be a sacrilege because

    It would deny who I have become.

    I believe that the Capenter with the

    Unlisted phone number

    Chooses to look passed the imperfection I have added

    to what He has created

    To see the beauty of his handiwork.

    Liked by 3 people

    • michele348's avatar michele348

      We are what we are… flaws and all. It’s a good thing that the carpenter upstairs knows that we imperfect humans usually have good intentions, but occasionally mess up. He’s understanding that way; otherwise, the room upstairs would be pretty vacant. 🙂

      Like

    • antoinette56's avatar antoinette56

      Dear “al3793,” your piece points out the importance of the co-creation of our selves, and that mistakes are a central ingredient to that! Thanks, Antoinette

      Like

  5. michele348's avatar michele348

    About the mistake factory~~~

    It’s a place I go to every day, and I am a model employee.

    It seems there is nothing I can do right.
    They say you can’t please all of the people all of the time…
    but it feels like I please none of the people at any time.
    That’s why I earned the “employee of the year award”
    four years in a row.

    Here I have found my true calling… being imperfect in
    an imperfect whirled. Oops, there I go again!

    What will happen when my earthly life comes to an end?
    Well, I’ll leave that up to those whose job is to figure that out!

    Liked by 1 person

    • antoinette56's avatar antoinette56

      Dear Michele, I’m so glad you wrote this piece on the blog, in addition to sharing it. I got a laugh again out of the “employee of the year award.” And of course we couldn’t hear your word play with the deliberate misspelling of “whirled/world”! Thanks, Antoinette

      Liked by 1 person

  6. J's avatar J

    I live inside the mistake factory

    There is no exit 

    just looping corridors

    flickering lights

    that buzz like regret

    Each day

    I clock in to ruin

    when I try to do it right, something breaks

    usually me

    I’ve memorized the warning signs

    too loud

    quiet

    emotional

    blank

    TOO F*King much

    ALWAYS too much

    The blueprints? 

    Theychange daily

    the conclusion doesn’t

    I am the problem

    Not my wiring

    or my past

    Me

    I say sorry before I speak

    Sometimes I say nothing to be safe

    It never works

    People tell me

    it’s not that bad

    They mean well

    What they don’t know

    how many versions of myself

    I’ve had to fire for underperforming

    Even the softest parts of me

    have been recalled

    Too sharp at the edges

    likely to cut the people I love

    There is no child drawing stars on this floor

    She left a long time ago

    I didn’t notice until the silence stayed

    it’s just me

    the clanging machinery

    the sound of one more

    defective thought

    dropping into the bin

    The line keeps moving

    There is no repair crew

    Just me

    And what I ruin next

    Liked by 1 person

  7. J's avatar brieflyd83e681b69

    I live inside the mistake factory

    There is no exit 

    just looping corridors

    flickering lights

    that buzz like regret

    Each day

    I clock in to ruin

    when I try to do it right, something breaks

    usually me

    I’ve memorized the warning signs

    too loud

    quiet

    emotional

    blank

    TOO F*King much

    ALWAYS too much

    The blueprints? 

    Theychange daily

    the conclusion doesn’t

    I am the problem

    Not my wiring

    or my past

    Me

    I say sorry before I speak

    Sometimes I say nothing to be safe

    It never works

    People tell me

    it’s not that bad

    They mean well

    What they don’t know

    how many versions of myself

    I’ve had to fire for underperforming

    Even the softest parts of me

    have been recalled

    Too sharp at the edges

    likely to cut the people I love

    There is no child drawing stars on this floor

    She left a long time ago

    I didn’t notice until the silence stayed

    it’s just me

    the clanging machinery

    the sound of one more

    defective thought

    dropping into the bin

    The line keeps moving

    There is no repair crew

    Just me

    And what I ruin next

    Liked by 2 people

    • antoinette56's avatar antoinette56

      Dear “briefly…” There are so many powerful images in your piece, and so many hard edges. I found “how many versions of myself / I’ve had to fire for underperforming” particularly resonant. Thank you! Antoinette

      Like

  8. antoinette56's avatar antoinette56

    Write about the mistake factory

    I imagine a Sneetches type factory where deliberate errors are planned – or not planned.

    “Let this one have two eye colors.”

    “Let this one’s heart be on the wrong side…what is ‘wrong’ anyway?”

    “Let this one be a poet, when they thought they would be a surgeon.”

    The mistakes would be funny, silly, sometimes life-threatening.

    They would threaten the trademark of serious businessmen, and make their stomach acids churn.

    They would be happy mistakes sometimes, someone thought dead who was just mislaid, or a word misheard as its opposite.

    Who would decide what was a mistake? Maybe Quality Control would be on their lunch break and a whole conveyor belt of mismatched sweater sleeves would find their way to pairs of imperfectly matched arms

    Like

    • michele348's avatar michele348

      Yes… who truly has the final say as to what is right or wrong, perfect or imperfect? They say, “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”, but what happens if the person is blind? Can’t they still experience beauty in the world through their other senses? Mistakes are just labels that an imperfect world has placed upon the actions of others…but who gets to be the final judge?

      Like

  9. Elizabeth's avatar Elizabeth

    Please remember that perfection is the enemy.

    Do not strive for it,

    Yearn for it,

    Seek it.

    Instead-

    Take those missteps

    Up to the gates of gaffe

    And love those endearing errors

    Because your mistakes

    Will set you free.

    Like

    • michele348's avatar michele348

      Elizabeth, those who seek perfection always are apt to be the receiver of disappointment and heartache. Our time here is one of trial and error, learning a bit as we go. As you said, not being caught up in the web of perfection, gives you the opportunity to test your wings, to stretch your legs, and to run free. There is true joy in that.

      Like

Leave a comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.